Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Thursday, June 16, 2011
A Love Affair with "Why?"
As a seeker and a full-time student of life, I find myself always asking the tough questions. Trying to dig deeper. Trying to understand, um, everything.
What is that?
Why does it exist?
Where did it come from?
Why? Why? Why?
I am obsessed with understanding why things have become they way they have. I have been having a love affair with "Why?"
But what I didn't stop to consider was that my reasons, my answers, may have helped me make sense of my immediate universe but they are not the final answers. My answer is the answer that comes from my one tiny, limited perspective. And even as I expand my consciousness and receive the answers from that expanded perspective, it's still only another perspective.
So, I will keep up my love affair of "Why?" but with the awareness that this life is a mystery for sure.
This reminds me of my favorite quote:
I here on out pledge to love the questions and accept that I won't fully understand all of my emotions, or other's emotions. I won't fully understand why I am the way I am and I won't understand why others are the way they are. I accept that and am ready to feel all that I need to feel without trying to wrap my head around my emotions.
Because the head can't always understand the matters of the heart.
Cheers to loving the questions. Keep on asking, my fellow "Why?"ers!
What is that?
Why does it exist?
Where did it come from?
Why? Why? Why?
I am obsessed with understanding why things have become they way they have. I have been having a love affair with "Why?"
But what I didn't stop to consider was that my reasons, my answers, may have helped me make sense of my immediate universe but they are not the final answers. My answer is the answer that comes from my one tiny, limited perspective. And even as I expand my consciousness and receive the answers from that expanded perspective, it's still only another perspective.
So, I will keep up my love affair of "Why?" but with the awareness that this life is a mystery for sure.
This reminds me of my favorite quote:
Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions - Rilke
I here on out pledge to love the questions and accept that I won't fully understand all of my emotions, or other's emotions. I won't fully understand why I am the way I am and I won't understand why others are the way they are. I accept that and am ready to feel all that I need to feel without trying to wrap my head around my emotions.
Because the head can't always understand the matters of the heart.
Cheers to loving the questions. Keep on asking, my fellow "Why?"ers!
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Monday, June 13, 2011
Ketubah Inspiration
Today I am designing a Ketubah, a Jewish marriage contract, for a friend. I was researching examples and I came across a few I needed to share. Although I don't use this blog usually as a space for design inspiration, I believe that when we admire beauty, we create more in our own lives.
Cheers to beautiful art and craftsmanship in the name of love!
Sunday, June 5, 2011
The Scrumptious Life
Hey peeps!!
I am so excited to be vlogging for PROUDgirls as the holistic health expert. PROUDgirls is a site for teens that encourages teenage girls to stand united and embrace their unique beauty, to use their power to make a difference in their life, community and the world, and to change their negative dialog into positive action.
LOVE IT! Here is my intro video :)
I am so excited to be vlogging for PROUDgirls as the holistic health expert. PROUDgirls is a site for teens that encourages teenage girls to stand united and embrace their unique beauty, to use their power to make a difference in their life, community and the world, and to change their negative dialog into positive action.
LOVE IT! Here is my intro video :)
Deeper Down
Deep down,
we want to shine bright.
We want
to be free.
And yet,
there is a place
deep down,
that feels safer.
A place
where we want to hide.
Hide
from our true selves.
Deep down,
we are afraid.
Afraid
of our darkness.
Afraid
to see
ourselves fully.
Can we
shine
and
hide
at the same time?
The answer is no.
So we dig deeper.
And deeper down,
we want to love
and be loved.
And
when that becomes
our reason to live,
we are no longer hiding.
We shine
BRIGHT.
Real bright.
Friday, April 22, 2011
Give Yourself The Space to Feel
Originally posted on Bella Life
“Spiritual progress is like detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface.” Marianne Williamson
Marianne said it right. When we want to heal, when we make love a priority in our lives, some of our deepest wounds come to the surface because we really gotta feel it to heal it.
Many of us have had dark experiences, so dark that we don’t even want to look at the pain that comes along with them. It’s only natural to block these experiences out of our minds, it is our defense mechanism. These experiences are often an extreme shock to our system because they are so against what we know to be true in our hearts which is that there is only love. You could have been scolded for getting bad grades, your house could have broken into, or you may have been sexually or verbally abused. Whatever it is, we currently live in a world run by fear and unfortunately, these things do happen. All of these experiences are opportunities for growth if we view them as such but there is no denying that pain we all experience.
I went through a traumatic experience last year- it shook me to my core and was one of the most difficult things I have had to go through to date. I thought that I had felt everything I needed to feel surrounding the experience but I recently woke up to the fact that I have been bringing this experience from the past into the present moment. I was ready to face the pain and fear that was harboring inside of me so I reached out to my coach about what was going on and within minutes of opening up about it, i started bawling. I was releasing emotions/feelings that had been bottled inside for a year. It felt uncomfortable but at the same time so freeing. She gently reminded me to create the space for myself to feel and I then saw how I just needed to be comfortable with being uncomfortable for a little. Feeling this pain wasn’t going to feel good, but it doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. I turned off my computer for 2 hours and let it all out. I cancelled my appointments that afternoon and told my friends I needed to have a “me” night. By doing this for myself, I was showing up for myself in a huge way.
How can you give yourself the space to feel what needs to come up?
Start talking about it. With your friends, family, therapist or coach. If this sounds scary to you, reach out when you are ready. It could be as small as telling someone that you are afraid to talk but that there is something on your mind. That in itself is huge. Some people go through their whole lives without facing their dark corners. Pat yourself on the back for wanting to face this part of yourself, you are braver than you think you are.
Give yourself the space to feel, to cry, to yell and to scream. Turn off the computer and put away your phone. Sit with yourself and if you feel moved to, do some free writing. Also, give yourself time to sit with the feelings. It is important to not push them back down in the ways you usually do, possibly through focusing on work, eating or drinking. If you have a meeting or appointment that you aren’t up for, don’t force yourself to go if you have the option of changing it. Create the time and space for you to be with yourself.
Take it slowly. Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Because we live in a society where we have everything at our fingertips instantaneously, we have the tendency to apply our need for instant gratification to our search for inner peace. For most of us, healing is a slow process and it is important be easy on ourselves. Remember, it all doesn’t have to happen at once.
Show yourself some extra lovin’. The act of allowing yourself to feel is so loving in itself but it always helps to show your body and mind that you are there caring for her. Take a bath, put on some luxurious lotion, light some candles, put on some nice underwear or make yourself a delicious, healthy meal. All of these actions will remind you how you are safe and loved.
In your own time, create the space you need to feel all you need to feel in whichever way works best for you. It’s worth it!
“Spiritual progress is like detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface.” Marianne Williamson
Marianne said it right. When we want to heal, when we make love a priority in our lives, some of our deepest wounds come to the surface because we really gotta feel it to heal it.
Many of us have had dark experiences, so dark that we don’t even want to look at the pain that comes along with them. It’s only natural to block these experiences out of our minds, it is our defense mechanism. These experiences are often an extreme shock to our system because they are so against what we know to be true in our hearts which is that there is only love. You could have been scolded for getting bad grades, your house could have broken into, or you may have been sexually or verbally abused. Whatever it is, we currently live in a world run by fear and unfortunately, these things do happen. All of these experiences are opportunities for growth if we view them as such but there is no denying that pain we all experience.
I went through a traumatic experience last year- it shook me to my core and was one of the most difficult things I have had to go through to date. I thought that I had felt everything I needed to feel surrounding the experience but I recently woke up to the fact that I have been bringing this experience from the past into the present moment. I was ready to face the pain and fear that was harboring inside of me so I reached out to my coach about what was going on and within minutes of opening up about it, i started bawling. I was releasing emotions/feelings that had been bottled inside for a year. It felt uncomfortable but at the same time so freeing. She gently reminded me to create the space for myself to feel and I then saw how I just needed to be comfortable with being uncomfortable for a little. Feeling this pain wasn’t going to feel good, but it doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. I turned off my computer for 2 hours and let it all out. I cancelled my appointments that afternoon and told my friends I needed to have a “me” night. By doing this for myself, I was showing up for myself in a huge way.
How can you give yourself the space to feel what needs to come up?
Start talking about it. With your friends, family, therapist or coach. If this sounds scary to you, reach out when you are ready. It could be as small as telling someone that you are afraid to talk but that there is something on your mind. That in itself is huge. Some people go through their whole lives without facing their dark corners. Pat yourself on the back for wanting to face this part of yourself, you are braver than you think you are.
Give yourself the space to feel, to cry, to yell and to scream. Turn off the computer and put away your phone. Sit with yourself and if you feel moved to, do some free writing. Also, give yourself time to sit with the feelings. It is important to not push them back down in the ways you usually do, possibly through focusing on work, eating or drinking. If you have a meeting or appointment that you aren’t up for, don’t force yourself to go if you have the option of changing it. Create the time and space for you to be with yourself.
Take it slowly. Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Because we live in a society where we have everything at our fingertips instantaneously, we have the tendency to apply our need for instant gratification to our search for inner peace. For most of us, healing is a slow process and it is important be easy on ourselves. Remember, it all doesn’t have to happen at once.
Show yourself some extra lovin’. The act of allowing yourself to feel is so loving in itself but it always helps to show your body and mind that you are there caring for her. Take a bath, put on some luxurious lotion, light some candles, put on some nice underwear or make yourself a delicious, healthy meal. All of these actions will remind you how you are safe and loved.
In your own time, create the space you need to feel all you need to feel in whichever way works best for you. It’s worth it!
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